Relationship Layout #2

 

 

Difficulty: Easy

This relationship layout focuses more on the common ground of the relationship, with three oghams in the middle column showing the common ground. The middle column essentially displays the past, present, and future of the relationship.

Ogham #4 stands for the common base of the relationship, which may be thought of as the past events which have shaped their characters, bringing them together. The current connection that binds them together is Ogham #3, indicating the values shared. Ogham #7 implies the common goals that would keep the pair together moving into the future.

The columns on either side show what each partner brings to the table. Remember, relationships need not be romantic, and the partners could even be groups rather than individuals. In this layout, the other person is on the left-hand side and the reader on the right.

Oghams #1 & #2 indicate the separate personalities of each member of the relationship. These oghams form a sort of bridge with the oghams beneath them, #5 & #6, which show the qualities that each partner offers the other person, and thus to the relationship as a whole.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Relationship #2 Reading

	Mutual Goals
Your Qualities	Connection (Present)	Others' Qualities
What You Bring	Common Base (Past)	What They Bring

 

 

 

 

7: Mutual Goals

Ruis Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Elder
• Kenning: ‘Death’s Gateway’

Blocked Elder is stagnation, refusing to grieve, refusing to grow. You may cling to rotted branches, mistaking them for life. Stop embalming your own dead. Surrender the corpse of old identities, dreams, and loyalties.

• Spiritual Lesson: True rebirth demands true mourning.
• Reflective Question: What am I still carrying that must be laid to rest?
• Affirmation: ‘I bless the ending and welcome the new.’

 

 

 

 

3: Connection

Quert Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Apple
• Kenning: ‘Fruit of the Otherworld’

When Apple is blocked, pleasure becomes greed, or fear of pleasure stifles the spirit. You may refuse what life offers, believing yourself unworthy—or gorge yourself into spiritual sickness. Seek balance. The fruit of the Otherworld is sacred because it is shared, not hoarded.

• Spiritual Lesson: True abundance is joyful, generous, and reverent.
• Reflective Question: Where am I denying myself the blessings of life?
• Affirmation: ‘I taste joy without fear.’

 

 

 

 

4: Common Base

Fearn

• Tree/Plant: Alder
• Kenning: ‘Shield of the Warriors’

Alder thrives between earth and water—the place of negotiation, the meeting of opposites. Fearn calls you to step into the battleground of life, not with brutish force, but with fluid adaptability. Stand where others fear to stand. Your strength will come from your ability to bridge worlds, broker peace, or hold your ground with dignity. Alder wood dyes water red—a sign that some sacrifices are honourable and necessary.

• Spiritual Lesson: Strength is found not in stubbornness, but in sacred resilience.
• Reflective Question: What cause truly deserves my courage right now?
• Affirmation: ‘I am the bridge and the battleground.’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2: Your Qualities

Eabhadh Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Aspen
• Kenning: ‘Stone of Memory’

When Eabhadh is blocked, you're drowning in ambiguity or paralysed by what can't be understood. But not all truths are meant to be solved—some are meant to be witnessed.

• Spiritual Lesson: Some mysteries are meant to be honoured, not solved.
• Reflective Question: What silence am I afraid to name?
• Affirmation: ‘I honour the nameless and remember the unsaid.’

 

 

 

 

1: Their Qualities

Iodhadh Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Yew
• Kenning: ‘Tree of Death and Continuity’

Blocked Yew is fear of endings so deep, it calcifies life itself. You cling to what's gone rotten rather than face the sacred unknown. Let death do its work. Let silence speak. New roots must drink from ancient soil.

• Spiritual Lesson: Death is not the end—it is the sacred beginning beneath all beginnings.
• Reflective Question: What am I clinging to that refuses to die cleanly?
• Affirmation: ‘I descend to rise.’

 

 

 

 

6: What You Bring

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5: What They Bring

Iphin

• Tree/Plant: Gooseberry
• Kenning: ‘The Tang of Life’

Iphin is the tart, the zing, the sudden clarity in the back of the throat. It is freshness through contrast. Change arrives like a sour wind—but it clears the air. You are invited into the bracing joy of truth, the bitter clarity that awakens. Let yourself be refreshed. Let the sting revive you.

• Spiritual Lesson: Life stings—but it stings to wake you.
• Reflective Question: What bitterness must I bless so it can become my medicine?
• Affirmation: ‘I rise refreshed from the bite of truth.’