Relationship Layout #2

 

 

Difficulty: Easy

This relationship layout focuses more on the common ground of the relationship, with three oghams in the middle column showing the common ground. The middle column essentially displays the past, present, and future of the relationship.

Ogham #4 stands for the common base of the relationship, which may be thought of as the past events which have shaped their characters, bringing them together. The current connection that binds them together is Ogham #3, indicating the values shared. Ogham #7 implies the common goals that would keep the pair together moving into the future.

The columns on either side show what each partner brings to the table. Remember, relationships need not be romantic, and the partners could even be groups rather than individuals. In this layout, the other person is on the left-hand side and the reader on the right.

Oghams #1 & #2 indicate the separate personalities of each member of the relationship. These oghams form a sort of bridge with the oghams beneath them, #5 & #6, which show the qualities that each partner offers the other person, and thus to the relationship as a whole.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Relationship #2 Reading

	Mutual Goals
Your Qualities	Connection (Present)	Others' Qualities
What You Bring	Common Base (Past)	What They Bring

 

 

 

 

7: Mutual Goals

Straif Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Blackthorn
• Kenning: ‘Blade of Trials’

Blocked Blackthorn is bitterness without evolution. Hardship can become identity if you refuse its medicine. Don’t wear your scars like trophies. Wear them like wisdom. Refuse to become thorny just because the world is.

• Spiritual Lesson: Pain refines, not defines.
• Reflective Question: What suffering is trying to carve me into something better?
• Affirmation: ‘I transform pain into power.’

 

 

 

 

3: Connection

Ur Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Heather
• Kenning: ‘Flower of Dreams’

Blocked Heather is escapism, false hope, or emotional dissociation. Dreams without grounding become fantasy. Tend your dreams like gardens, not castles in the air. Hope is sacred—not to be wasted on illusions.

• Spiritual Lesson: Dreams demand roots as much as wings.
• Reflective Question: What fragile dream do I need to protect and nourish?
• Affirmation: ‘I dream with rooted hope.’

 

 

 

 

4: Common Base

Iodhadh

• Tree/Plant: Yew
• Kenning: ‘Tree of Death and Continuity’

Iodhadh, the ancient Yew, stands at the boundary of death and eternal return. Its poisonous berries and immortal trunk whisper the riddle of endings that never end. You are not merely ending—you are cycling into something older, deeper. This is not a death; it is a deepening. Honour the transformation that does not ask for permission.

• Spiritual Lesson: Death is not the end—it is the sacred beginning beneath all beginnings.
• Reflective Question: What am I clinging to that refuses to die cleanly?
• Affirmation: ‘I descend to rise.’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2: Your Qualities

Saille Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Willow
• Kenning: ‘Sweeping Elegance’

Saille blocked is a dammed river—emotions swell, distort, and may burst destructively. You may cling to numbness, or become imprisoned by nostalgia and mourning. Let it move. What you suppress becomes the flood that drowns you. What you grieve becomes the seed of your rebirth. Surrender is not weakness; it is navigation.

• Spiritual Lesson: Mastery of emotion is achieved through movement, not denial.
• Reflective Question: Where am I refusing to let grief or inspiration flow?
• Affirmation: ‘I bend; I do not break.’

 

 

 

 

1: Their Qualities

Tinne

• Tree/Plant: Holly
• Kenning: ‘Warrior’s Crown’

Tinne, the battle tree, grants you the armour of spirit. Now is the time for honourable combat—whether internal or external. Holly speaks to inner resilience, self-defence, and strategic action. You are not called to start wars, but to win them if they come. Focus your energy. Fight for what feeds your soul, not your vanity.

• Spiritual Lesson: Victory is hollow without a worthy cause.
• Reflective Question: What is truly worth fighting for now?
• Affirmation: ‘I wear the crown of sacred battle.’

 

 

 

 

6: What You Bring

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5: What They Bring

Ailm Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Silver Fir
• Kenning: ‘Pillar of Resilience’

Blocked Fir falls into rigidity or despair. Are you standing so firm that you refuse to bend when you must? Are you pretending strength while hollow inside? Adaptability strengthens resilience. Stay alive to yourself—not frozen.

• Spiritual Lesson: True resilience bends without breaking.
• Reflective Question: What inner root keeps me alive through winter?
• Affirmation: ‘I endure, evergreen and steadfast.’