Relationship Layout #2

 

 

Difficulty: Easy

This relationship layout focuses more on the common ground of the relationship, with three oghams in the middle column showing the common ground. The middle column essentially displays the past, present, and future of the relationship.

Ogham #4 stands for the common base of the relationship, which may be thought of as the past events which have shaped their characters, bringing them together. The current connection that binds them together is Ogham #3, indicating the values shared. Ogham #7 implies the common goals that would keep the pair together moving into the future.

The columns on either side show what each partner brings to the table. Remember, relationships need not be romantic, and the partners could even be groups rather than individuals. In this layout, the other person is on the left-hand side and the reader on the right.

Oghams #1 & #2 indicate the separate personalities of each member of the relationship. These oghams form a sort of bridge with the oghams beneath them, #5 & #6, which show the qualities that each partner offers the other person, and thus to the relationship as a whole.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Relationship #2 Reading

	Mutual Goals
Your Qualities	Connection (Present)	Others' Qualities
What You Bring	Common Base (Past)	What They Bring

 

 

 

 

7: Mutual Goals

Fearn Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Alder
• Kenning: ‘Shield of the Warriors’

When Alder is blocked, the call to act becomes a coward’s retreat or a reckless charge. You may be standing in the wrong battle, wasting blood for pride. Or worse, refusing a battle that desperately needs your presence. Beware false peace. Some bridges must be burned before the right ones can be built. Know what you are fighting for—and what you are willing to surrender.

• Spiritual Lesson: Strength is found not in stubbornness, but in sacred resilience.
• Reflective Question: What cause truly deserves my courage right now?
• Affirmation: ‘I am the bridge and the battleground.’

 

 

 

 

3: Connection

Iodhadh Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Yew
• Kenning: ‘Tree of Death and Continuity’

Blocked Yew is fear of endings so deep, it calcifies life itself. You cling to what's gone rotten rather than face the sacred unknown. Let death do its work. Let silence speak. New roots must drink from ancient soil.

• Spiritual Lesson: Death is not the end—it is the sacred beginning beneath all beginnings.
• Reflective Question: What am I clinging to that refuses to die cleanly?
• Affirmation: ‘I descend to rise.’

 

 

 

 

4: Common Base

Eadha Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Aspen
• Kenning: ‘Shield of Courage’

Blocked Aspen freezes in terror or arrogance. Do you hide from necessary risks? Or charge recklessly to drown out your fears? True courage honours fear without surrendering to it. Feel it. Face it. Then walk through it.

• Spiritual Lesson: Courage is trembling action.
• Reflective Question: What fear am I called to face and outgrow?
• Affirmation: ‘I tremble, but I move.’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2: Your Qualities

Quert

• Tree/Plant: Apple
• Kenning: ‘Fruit of the Otherworld’

Quert is the sweet fruit hanging just beyond reach, the Otherworld’s promise of abundance, beauty, and healing. You are called to enjoy life's sweetness without shame or fear. Taste joy fully, live fully, love fully. Gifts are meant to be accepted. Pleasure, properly honoured, is a spiritual act.

• Spiritual Lesson: True abundance is joyful, generous, and reverent.
• Reflective Question: Where am I denying myself the blessings of life?
• Affirmation: ‘I taste joy without fear.’

 

 

 

 

1: Their Qualities

Émancholl Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Double Hazel / ‘Lover’s Vine’
• Kenning: ‘The Sacred Pair’

Blocked Émancholl is entanglement without purpose. You may be caught in patterns that mirror old pain, not new growth. Not all bonds are sacred. Some vines must be cut to allow new growth.

• Spiritual Lesson: True connection is mutual transformation.
• Reflective Question: What relationship calls me to become more than myself?
• Affirmation: ‘I grow through sacred union.’

 

 

 

 

6: What You Bring

Ngetal Blocked

 

 

 

 

5: What They Bring

Saille Blocked

• Tree/Plant: Willow
• Kenning: ‘Sweeping Elegance’

Saille blocked is a dammed river—emotions swell, distort, and may burst destructively. You may cling to numbness, or become imprisoned by nostalgia and mourning. Let it move. What you suppress becomes the flood that drowns you. What you grieve becomes the seed of your rebirth. Surrender is not weakness; it is navigation.

• Spiritual Lesson: Mastery of emotion is achieved through movement, not denial.
• Reflective Question: Where am I refusing to let grief or inspiration flow?
• Affirmation: ‘I bend; I do not break.’